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Cleaning out the evil
We all have a dark shadow

April 16, 2019May 18, 2022 by Sam

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in and yang God and lucifer We all have both. A compassionate, protective, loving, nurturing side. And a fearful side, which leads us to jealousy, greed, hatred. Kindness feels better than hatred. Therefor, compassion trumps fear. Being a kind person isn't about always being nice or never feeling like you…

Teaching old dogs new tricks – 3 Steps to learning
How I learned how to dance at 31, how to speak Japanese as an adult, and basically how to learn anything.

February 25, 2018May 18, 2022 by Sam

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ow I learned how to dance at 31, how to draw at 34, how to speak Japanese as an adult, and basically how to learn anything. Up until I was 30 years old, if I somehow wandered into a nightclub I knew I was in for a long and painful…

The Past isn’t just the Past
It can come back and bite hard as we learn and grow

February 14, 2018May 18, 2022 by Sam

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t's those one of those moments I'll never forget. Walking into my home one evening, she was sitting at my computer. The room was dark and the light from my messenger account open on the computer screen coloured her face. That face looked back at me, visible surprise and pain…

A formula for better self esteem through integrity
As with all things, it's simple to understand, difficult to follow :)

September 22, 2017October 20, 2022 by Sam

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hile there are many things that contribute to your level of self-esteem, integrity is the one I want to focus on. Integrity is built by the consistent alignment between one's values and actions. Note: this idea is lifted from The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. You can find…

Self-forgiveness starts with an apology

May 24, 2017May 18, 2022 by Sam

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year ago I did something that I really shouldn't have done. Despite a tight feeling in my chest that I should have realized was my body signaling "you shouldn't do this", I did it anyhow. That tight feeling in my chest is now a familiar friend, who is with me…

How Not To Recover from Depression

May 15, 2017May 18, 2022 by Sam

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inally getting better after a battle with Depression. I figure that hopefully if I write about my mistakes on the way down and on the way back up, it will help someone else avoid them :) Mistake #1: Making Major Life Decisions Without Taking Enough Time to Process my…

Thinking about leaving her for someone else?
OK, but read this first!

April 22, 2017May 18, 2022 by Sam

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ow, there are a lot of reasons to break up with someone and they are all valid - it's always up to you to take steps to be happy in your life. And choosing who you share your life with is a huge thing. Still, this is a cautionary tale.…